Getting Out Of Your Own Way

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What keeps us from what we truly desire?

Ourselves

Our limiting beliefs and the stories we tell ourselves.

The stories that keep us small and safe.

It’s a hard habit to break (or is that simply another story?) It’s a journey and a process, usually not something we achieve overnight.

The first step is to learn to dream without limitations.

Dream of everything you could ever want to be, do or have.

Without limitations, ignoring excuses and defying logic. Ugh, that ever-intruding-nagging part of the brain that insists everything is too hard, expensive or scary.

Take out pen and paper, or some pencils and start writing.

Whatever comes up, write it down.

No censorship. You’re just writing, it doesn’t mean you have to quit your job tomorrow and run away to travel the world.

Have fun with it. What would you do if you could do anything at all?

Let us know in the comments below what you come up with?

 

What I Am Wednesday

A little midweek mojo. A place  to share all we are doing, seeing and loving. A little mid week. inspiration. Don’t’ forget to share in the comments what you are discovering this week.

Bicycles in Bruges, West Flanders ,Belgium

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What I am reading: I have set myself a goal to finish  the unfinished books scattered around my house.  Starting with The Signature of all Things. While I absolutely love Elizabeth Gilbert as a person and enjoyed the book, it isn’t one that I picture myself reading again.

What I am loving: This video made me laugh and smile.

This world is full of such talent and beauty, I want to experience it all.

Just in case you missed this, I still get teary thinking about it and have vowed to never buy a Barbie again.  A reminder that you can make a difference.

I love anything that challenges my assumptions like this video did.

What I am watching: I heard there were mixed reviews about The Second Best Marigold Hotel, but I absolutely loved every minute of it. In fact I saw it twice at the cinema and didn’t feel disappointed. Just lovely, colourful fun and a reminder to me that I love a good community.

I also watched this lovely movie with my five year old daughter as it was on a list of empowering movies for young girls.  Kit Kittredge

We’ve also been watching old episodes of She-ra. A flashback to my childhood. I always wanted to be a princess of power, with a trusty steed.

What I am learning: Apart from the usual study I do into expanding my own little property empire, I am taking part in the WILD mama journey with Avalon Darnesh. It’s an online course for getting clearer about your vision and purpose and stepping into alignment with it.

I attended a Nepalese wedding party and discovered these little beauties. While I need to be gluten free for health reasons, there will be occasions that I  break this rule; I will be eat pizza and pasta in Italy and I will experience the heavenly taste of lovingly and traditionally made Gulab Jamun  by my Nepalese neighbours.

The world is one creative and beautiful place, it is our job to discover it.

Please share in the comments below your discoveries for this week.

xx Nicole

7 Questions To Ask Yourself Every Sunday

To achieve any goal and move forward in life it is important to monitor and measure your progress. The following seven questions, asked on a regular basis will help to measure and monitor your progress.

57438697811.  What did I learn last week?

If we aren’t learning we aren’t growing and moving forward. List everything you learned. This can be anything from something you learned about yourself to a new skill you picked up. Small things, and big lessons are all essential tools for creating the life of your dreams. Is there anything you feel you failed at last week? Failing is simply a tool to teach us something new.

 2. What were my achievements last week?

Again, big or small list them all. If your biggest achievement of the week was to get out of bed and brush your teeth then list that and feel proud.  It is not the size of the achievement that counts but the fact  you achieved something. If we don’t take  time to acknowledge the things we do achieve  we will never gain a feeling of fulfillment. We will always be focused on judging ourselves for  things we think we should have achieved.

3. What am I most looking forward to this coming week?

I believe the key to a long and happy life is to always have something to look forward to. We often think this needs to be something big like a holiday or buying a new item. The smaller the things you are excited about the easier it is to schedule them throughout your week. Start a list of things that make you really happy for when you need some inspiration. Perhaps reading for 30 uninterrupted, guilt-free minutes with a lovely cup of tea is something you could schedule and look forward to. A trip to the cinema or a cafe. A walk around a farmers market. Dancing around to some great music.  A visit to a museum or art gallery.  Taking an afternoon nap, or a long soak in the bath while the kids are at school. Take a picnic to the beach or the park with the family.

4. What are 7 little to-do items for this week?

If your ‘To-Do’ list is like mine, it contains a couple of hundred items. Awhile ago I gave up fighting  my ‘To-Do’ list and accepted it wasn’t something to complete. I was racing to get my ‘To-Do’ list finished. Finishing a list creates space and time for more projects and even more tasks to complete.

There are many things I need to get done each day, but there are items that get stuck on my list if I don’t make an effort to get them done.

I choose seven items from my big ‘To-Do’ list to complete each week. One to be  completed each day. These are small items,  ones that are important but usually neglected for more urgent items.  They don’t take longer than an hour and can take just a few minutes. These are usually things like; send thank you cards, make dentist appointments, sort out my desk, buy a new folder, return an item to someone,, fertilize plants, take clothes to charity shop, compare insurance quotes, open a new savings account.

It keeps my list moving forward and frees negative energy from seeing the same things on my list week after week.

5. What would make my coming week easier?

Is there something you can add to your routine to make your week run a little smoother? Is there something you can let go of  to move forward into a new week? Is there somebody you can ask for help or advice? Is there something you feel has been wasting your time and you can cut down a little this week?

6. Did I avoid anything last week?

It is often the things we avoid that we most need to do. These things can  provide the most benefit to our week.  We  avoid these things because they take  us outside our comfort zone. It is outside our comfort zone that we make change. We can make great progress inside our comfort zone, but it is usually change and growth that occurs outside of it. If you find yourself stuck in procrastination mode, read here about how I learned to love procrastination.

7. What made you laugh and smile last week?

It’s important to note these things, so you can do more of them! Laughter is the best medicine and smiling means you are on the right path. Laughter and smiling come from the simplest things too. Rolling around on the floor and playing with your children, watching a funny show, getting into nature.  I believe one of the keys to a great life is having a light and playful attitude whenever possible.

Use these questions on a regular basis, or create a list of your own. I like to complete them on a Sunday night to help me focus on the week ahead. Let me know which question helps you in the comments section below

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Financial Freedom Friday – The Path

Achieving financial freedom is one of the most popular goals on my coaching clients bucket lists. and it’s a topic I am passionate about. In this series we will work together to ensure you are on a path to financial freedom in your own life.

But what is financial freedom exactly, and how do we achieve it?

10632708_942240372457805_3160735808066603671_nTraditionally, financial freedom is defined as: passive income exceeding your living expenses. In other words; earning an income that allows you to live your dream life without having to work.

While this can seem like an impossible goal for many, it is possible for everyone.

Financial freedom,  is usually thought of as being for people with millions in the bank or those willing to take large risks on the stock market.

Neither of these are true. You probably need far less than you think to achieve financial freedom and there are many ways to get it.

Financial freedom can seem like an impossible goal for many, but the goal can be broken down into many smaller, and achievable mini~goals.
Each one of these mini-goals is a success in itself. And as the journey is usually more important than the destination, it is important to celebrate each achievement along the way.
Financial freedom mini goals:

Know how much you spend and how much you earn: This may seem simple but many people are surprised to see where  their money goes when they have a closer look.

Free yourself from debt that isn’t earning you money:  This includes credit card debt, store debt and those interest free purchases.

Simplify your spending: Have a clear understanding of what you want to spend your money on and what you don’t. Align spending with your values.

Know how much to spend on yourself each week to keep functioning at your best:  Being too restrictive with money is just as damaging as spending too much. You need to function at your best to reach financial freedom and there is a dollar amount that will help you get there.

Understand value over price: Investing in good service and value regardless of the price always saves money in the long-term.

Be comfortable investing in yourself first:: The more you invest in yourself, the more you will be able to contribute. This is not something to feel guilty about.

Overcome money blocks: Uncover and overcome limiting beliefs and barriers keeping you from financial freedom. Eliminate guilt and self-sabotaging patterns. Establish trust and build self-confidence and worthiness.

Develop an empowering investment strategy: Creating a plan of how to get from where you are to where you want to be.  One that aligns with your values and doesn’t keep you awake at night.

Become excited about receiving bills instead of dreading them: This was one of my biggest realisations of how far I had come on my own journey to financial freedom – appreciating and loving bills.

Clearly define the dollar figure to live your dream life: It is usually less than we think.

Become your own boss: Define what work you want to do and when you want to do it.

Be comfortable taking the steps that will get you there: On the path to financial freedom there will be many road blocks. Learning how to move forward with confidence is the biggest key to financial freedom.

Where are you at on your path to financial freedom? Please share in the comments below or let us know what is stopping you.

If you are ready to move forward on your path to financial freedom or start achieving your goals I will be making space for 3 new coaching clients next week. Use the contact form  below to leave your details and I will send you the information.

Nicole x

How To Love Your Body

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One of my goals in life is to raise a daughter that loves her body.

I thought I would share one of the games we play that I believe is going to help me achieve my goal.  It is for everyone though, and I urge you to play it alone too.

It’s called the ”What If…’ game and below is an example.

Mieke: What if we had no  feet?                                                                                         Me: Then it would be really hard to walk, run and play hopscotch.                                 Both of us: Thank you feet, we love you.

Mieke: What if we had no hair?                                                                                          Me: Then our heads would get cold and we wouldn’t be able to play hairdressers together.                                                                                                                             Both of us: Thank you hair, we love you.

Mieke: What if we had no tongue?                                                                                    Me: Then we wouldn’t be able to ask for food or say I love you.                                              Both of us: Thank you tongue, we love you.

Mieke: What if we had no bums? (she’s five and reminds me to lighten up a little about one of the body parts most hated by women)                                                                         Me: Then sitting down would be really uncomfortable and our spines wouldn’t be protected.                                                                                                                           Both of us: Thank you bum, we love you.

Sometimes we can talk for ten minutes or more about the amazing things a particular body part allows us to do. Or the beautiful things our eyes allow us to see.

It’s easy to focus on  parts of our body that we don’t like. This game brings our attention to  the absolutely incredible things our body parts do for us each day.

When we come from this place of love and appreciation we move out of ‘fight or flight’ mode. And it is in this place we can make the healthy and loving changes that we want to make.

Our bodies our incredible and they deserve to be loved.

 

If you are ready to make changes and my concepts and loving approach resonates with you then The Procrastination Solution is an ideal first step for you.

 

 

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How To Bring Back The Magic

We’ve traded magic for convenience.

Have you ever developed photos in a darkroom? It’s pure magic. Well it’s pure chemistry, but no matter how much you understand the chemistry behind it, every time you see a picture developing before your eyes it feels magical.

Last night my 5 year old daughter asked me if she could have some ‘realistic’ pet toy being advertised on the television. I suddenly felt sad and wondered whether she was going to experience magic moments. The magic of anticipation, excitement and joy that comes from real things. You know, like receiving a beautiful hand written letter in the post. As much as I love receiving emails from loved ones, nothing compares to the old days of pen pals and the excitement of opening the letterbox to see a real letter.

The anticipation of waiting for photos to be printed at the lab, or returned in the post. We have traded anticipation, which is part of the magic for convenience.

The smell and feel of real books for the instant digital download. Fast food for real food (even when it’s ‘healthy’)

The ability to listen to an entire cd as it was intended

The connection of real friendship, versus virtual association

Playing in the garden for playing games on digital devices

Taking care of things for disposable everything

Searching through the video store for the quick download. (For me this was before the days of Facebook and I always ran into people I knew on a Friday night at the local video store. It was a great time to catch up and have a laugh. It was such a social event and connection time.)

If you feel like you are missing something in life, slow down and remember the magic that you used to feel. Find ways to connect in real time rather than this virtual world we have created. Write a letter, listen to a record, get outside, find someone with a darkroom, get a real pet or plant, grow some vegetables, cook something from scratch wait for something, let the excitement of anticipation back into your life.

Are you ready to join a community of like-minded individuals moving from resistance to inspired action?

Yes! I’m ready!

How To Cultivate Courage.

Courage is an essential part of growth and I believe growth to be one of the key requirements for happiness.

We often confuse courage with ‘being a hero’. Courage isn’t a once in a lifetime event like rescuing a family from a fire or some other way of  putting our own lives at risk. Hopefully you will never need to do these things, but does that mean you can’t be courageous?

No. Courage comes from the small decisions and choices we make every day.

Courage is;

Asking for help when you need it

Being able to say ‘I don’t know’

Letting people know how you really feel instead of responding with your usual ‘I’m fine’

Choosing the option that is right for you especially when it is not the popular one

Knowing and accepting that there is nothing at all wrong with being afraid

Saying ‘I love you’,  ‘I miss you’ or ‘I need you’ when you are unsure of the response

Following your heart when your head is telling you otherwise

Putting something out there before you’ve perfected it

Giving up the excuses, complaints and justifications that hold you back

Saying ‘no’ or ‘yes’ and putting your needs first

Following your dreams

Getting out of bed and showing up

Taking a step forward, no matter how small

Saying hello to a stranger on the street or sending a thank you letter

Wearing the outfit you’ve got stuck in the back of the wardrobe because you are never sure whether it’s appropriate

Choosing play before work, rest before housework

Allowing yourself to take the easy option or the difficult option whichever is best in the moment

Owning your space, time and life

Turning off the computer and talking to the person next to you

Crying when you’re sad, laughing out loud and allowing yourself to be angry when something pisses you off

Walking into a room full of strangers and saying hello

 Making the appointments you need, the ones that scare you and showing up

Setting your standards, establishing your boundaries and sticking to then as best you can

It’s having the confidence to accept how your life is and let go of your expectations of what life should look like

Giving up the comfort foods that are making you unwell

Risking being laughed at and being able to laugh along

Ordering a different menu item, trying a different restaurant or visiting a new place

Not knowing the answers but trying something anyway

Trusting that you will find a way, you will solve the problems

We are given hundreds of opportunities a day to practice courage and honestly at times I think rescuing somebody from a fire may be easier than giving up chocolate.  Courage is relative to you, not somebody else’s experience.

Do you believe that you are courageous? What ways do you practice courage, let us know in the comments below.

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6 Steps to increasing your risk tolerance

Throughout my life people have often commented on my risk taking abilities. I have been called brave and tenacious, a high level risk taker. The strange thing is that I don’t feel like a risk taker at all. I often … Continue reading

Financial Freedom Friday – The Spaces Between

Photo taken from a holiday in Sweden

Photo taken from a holiday in Sweden

A lesson in Rest and Play

The path to financial freedom usually involves a lot of hard work.

Long hours, difficult decisions, problem solving and taking risks.

It is important to learn that the quality of your work is determined by the quality of the breaks you take.

This quality of your breaks will determine how quickly and smoothly you will travel along your path to financial freedom.

Overworking is easy to do. Just one more hour. Just one more day or week. Then you will take that rest. Something always comes up and the rest and play becomes a last priority, often missed out on altogether.

What can you delegate?

What can you stop doing in order to get some quality rest and play time?

Where can you be more effective in order to create time and space for rest and play?

How do you rest?

What do you do for fun?

What activities take your mind off work completely, even just for a few moments?

Rest and play doesn’t need to take up much time.

Perhaps in between each task you complete you could take five minutes to take a few deep breaths, have a nice cup of tea and enjoy some fresh air.

Without quality breaks, (the type where you aren’t thinking about work and checking your email every 2 minutes) you will never get the time to fully recharge.

As entrepreneurs, business owners or parents it can be so hard to draw a line between work, rest and play.  Whenever I am needing a reminder I think of this poem.

  FIRE ~ Judy Brown

What makes a fire burn
is space between the logs,
a breathing space.
Too much of a good thing,
too many logs
packed in too tight
can douse the flames
almost as surely
as a pail of water would.

So building fires
requires attention
to the spaces in between,
as much as to the wood.

When we are able to build
open spaces
in the same way
we have learned
to pile on the logs,
then we can come to see how
it is fuel, and absence of the fuel
together, that make fire possible.

We only need to lay a log
lightly from time to time.

A fire
grows
simply because the space is there,
with openings
in which the flame
that knows just how it wants to burn
can find its way.

Poem can be found  here

What do you do for fun? Let us know in the comments below.